Denise was asked the question: Do my husband and I need to preserve our marriage just for the sake of our children?

Denise answered: I know that your situation must be painful, but I want to give you some equipment to help with this situation. Matthew 19:6 says, “…What God has joined together, let not man separate.” It’s wisdom to speak this scripture over your marriage! There is temptation all around us, and the devil wants to separate marriages. But when we speak the Word of God, we are agreeing with the Word of God, and, therefore, we are more able to believe the Word of God. When we confess Matthew 19:6, we are putting ourselves into agreement with the Word of God, and we are saying this marriage is what God has joined together.

For example, you can say, “What God has joined together — and He has joined my husband and me together — let no man separate.” Say it over and over again.

You must also realize that you are not fighting against your husband. You are fighting against the enemy that is fighting against your marriage. Jesus Himself said, “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly” (John 10:10). It’s Jesus’ desire that we might have an abundant life, but the devil only wants to kill, steal, and destroy. The enemy is not your husband — the real enemy is the devil who wants to destroy your marriage.

Another great weapon that you have against the devil is to keep forgiving your husband. If the devil tries to bring up thoughts in your mind accusing your husband, you just keep taking those thoughts captive and say, “I forgive him. I forgive him.”

I want to encourage you to order my book called The Gift of Forgiveness. You can order it online at I believe this book will really help you. When we forgive, we destroy the weapons of the enemy. We close the door to the enemy, and we open the door to Heaven so that God can perform His will on our behalf.