Q: How to behave if it is clear that the spouse is wrong, and is mistaken in beliefs or decisions?

A: Well, I really have no Idea. 

But I do want to say, if your husband is making a decision that is illegal or immoral, that needs your attention. Because that’s going to affect you. You have power in prayer, and the Bible says in Proverbs 14:1 that a wise woman builds up her house with her hands. 

This is one of those situations where you need wisdom. And when you move in wisdom, your decisions can help build up your home. Even if your husband is making a wrong decision. 

And I mean serious wrong decisions, illegal or immoral. But you have power in prayer and with the wisdom God can give you. 

Now, one thing is really important, as you seek the Lord about this problem, maybe he wants you to talk to your husband. But I want to tell you it’s not just you telling him exactly what you think. Look with me to Ephesians 4:32 . There is a very powerful instruction for us. It says, “Be ye kind to one another, tenderhearted, and forgiving one another, even as God, for Christ sake, has forgiven you.” But do you see, it says be kind to one another, we need to speak to one another truthfully. 

We’re supposed to speak truth, but it matters how you speak. Speak kindly from your heart. You don’t want to do it with blaming, fear, and resentment. You want to do it with rationale, unemotional and with kindness. 

If you need to write down what you want to say, write it down. This situation calls for prayer and thought. And it calls for God’s direction. Your relationship is precious to God. And if you’re afraid your husband is making the wrong decision, immoral or illegal, you need to invite the presence of the Holy Spirit into the midst of this problem. And say “Holy Spirit, I need your help.” If you say those words, He comes with His help.