Q: I met a man with a large age difference. He is 30 years older than me. We realized that we have feelings for each other. Is that okay for a believer? I want everything to be according to God’s word.

A:  Of course, you can marry someone with a big difference in your age. 

The question for getting married is not about age. It’s about what God’s leading you to do. What is the Holy Spirit speaking to your heart? I know one couple where the wife is 25 years younger than the husband and they have a wonderful marriage. 

But you also have to look at this realistically. When you’re 40 he’ll be 70.  Or 30 and 60. But there’s no scripture in the Bible that says there should or shouldn’t be a big difference between you and your spouse. 

It’s important to understand they’re going to be older than you and you’re still going to be in your prime. You just have to look at it realistically and decide. 

Make sure you have peace in your heart. Marriage is a beautiful thing! It’s an institution that God created and the way that you love and treat one another, you can have beautiful years together. 

I just pray right now that God gives you wisdom and confirmation through the Holy Spirit.