Q:  What should I do if I don’t know how to make friends and I hate myself for it?

A:  A deeper understanding of the word of God will help you with this!

Many years ago, I had this cloud of condemnation hanging around me. Even though I was a Christian, I didn’t know enough about the Word of God to understand it, so I always felt like I wasn’t enough. I sounded pitiful when I came to God.

 But then I found this scripture while listening to a sermon about righteousness in Christ Jesus. So I want to share with you what I learned that day.

Romans 3:21 says, “But now the righteousness of God is revealed apart from the law being witnessed by the law and the prophets.”

You can’t do every single thing right, and that tends to be where we get these horrible feelings about ourselves. If we try to do everything right in our religious flesh, it might make us feel a little better, but that’s not always the case, because feelings are tricky! We can’t depend on them. We have to depend on something that is stronger than our feelings, and as Christians, we have something like that: The Word of God and what it says about us.

Romans 3:21 is telling us that the righteousness of God comes through faith in Jesus Christ, not through your life being amazing or you knowing how to handle everything, but because you trust in Him. It’s not about what you did—it’s about what He did!

We are talking about the righteousness of God that comes through FAITH in Christ Jesus! Just a few verses later, the Bible tells us that We have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God, but we are justified freely through His grace! When we believe in Jesus dying on the cross, it’s as if we had never sinned. We are made blameless, Not through our own work but through Jesus!

That’s what the blood of Jesus is all about. The guilt and hate you may be feeling is from the enemy. The devil is the accuser, and to deal with the accuser, you need to answer with the Word of God. Believe in Jesus and confess that you stand unblamable in His sight because of His sacrifice, by His blood, through faith!

The Gospel is so powerful! God has passed over our sins and demonstrated His righteousness through the cross. We mess up sometimes! It’s not our acts that keep us in Christ, it’s His power of salvation in us!

This is the greatest news we could be given! Thank you for your question!